Supporting LGBTQ+ Kids: A Guide for Parents and Caregivers
As a parent or caregiver, the desire to provide a nurturing and accepting environment for your child is fundamental. For LGBTQ+ youth, this support is especially crucial. The journey of understanding and embracing their identity can be filled with unique challenges. Here are practical tips to help you support your LGBTQ+ child emotionally and socially.
1. Educate Yourself
The first step in supporting your LGBTQ+ child is education. Familiarize yourself with the terminology and issues that affect the LGBTQ+ community. Understanding terms like lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and non-binary will help you communicate effectively and empathetically with your child. Resources such as CAMH offer valuable information.
2. Create an Open and Affirming Environment
Your home should be a safe space where your child feels comfortable expressing their true self. Encourage open conversations about their feelings and experiences. Listen without judgment and validate their emotions. Simple affirmations like “I love you” and “I’m here for you” can make a significant impact.
3. Use Inclusive Language
Using inclusive language is a powerful way to show your support. Respect your child’s chosen name and pronouns. Mistakes may happen, but correcting yourself and making an effort to get it right shows your commitment to their identity. For example, if your child identifies as non-binary and prefers they/them pronouns, make a conscious effort to use those pronouns consistently.
4. Advocate for Your Child
Advocacy is essential, especially in environments like schools where discrimination can occur. Ensure your child’s school has inclusive policies and practices. Advocate for anti-bullying measures, LGBTQ+ inclusive curricula, and the availability of gender-neutral restrooms. Being a vocal ally can help create a safer and more inclusive environment for your child.
5. Seek Out Support Networks
Connecting with other parents and caregivers of LGBTQ+ youth can provide emotional support and practical advice. Organizations like The 519 offer online communities and resources where you can share experiences and learn from others. These networks can be invaluable in navigating the challenges and celebrating the milestones of your child’s journey.
6. Encourage Self-Expression
Support your child’s self-expression in ways that feel authentic to them. This might include exploring different clothing styles, hairstyles, or interests. Allowing your child to express themselves freely can boost their self-esteem and sense of belonging. Remember, your acceptance and encouragement can help them feel more comfortable in their own skin.
7. Be Mindful of Mental Health
LGBTQ+ youth are at a higher risk for mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. Be vigilant about changes in your child’s behaviour and don’t be afraid to seek professional help. Therapists who specialize in LGBTQ+ issues can provide valuable support.
8. Celebrate Their Identity
Celebrate your child’s identity and milestones. Whether it’s coming out, transitioning, or simply embracing who they are, acknowledge and celebrate these moments. Your positive reinforcement can reinforce their sense of pride and self-worth. Attend LGBTQ+ events together, such as Pride parades, to show your support and solidarity.
9. Educate Others
As an ally, you can help educate others about LGBTQ+ issues. Share your knowledge with family members, friends, and your community. Dispelling myths and promoting understanding can create a more accepting and supportive environment for your child and other LGBTQ+ individuals.
10. Be Patient and Persistent
Supporting your LGBTQ+ child is an ongoing journey. There will be ups and downs, and both you and your child will learn and grow together. Be patient with yourself and your child as you navigate this path. Your continued love and support are the most important gifts you can offer.
Supporting an LGBTQ+ child requires compassion, understanding, and active effort. By educating yourself, creating an affirming environment, advocating for your child, and celebrating their identity, you can provide the emotional and social support they need to thrive. Remember, your unconditional love and acceptance are the foundations upon which your child can build a confident and authentic life.
This post was written by wellbe’s registered psychotherapist, Kamal Chahal. If you or your children are in need of support, you can book an in-person or virtual visit with our social workers here.