Finding Hope in the Darkest Moments: Mental Health Support in Times of Need

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In times of despair, it's essential to remember that there is hope and help available. On this World Suicide Prevention Day, we want to extend our heartfelt support to those struggling with their mental health and those supporting their loved ones through their journey. We believe that hope is a beacon that can guide us through the darkest of storms. Remember, you are not alone, and together, we can find the glimmers of hope that will light up your path.

If you’re struggling with your mental health or having thoughts of suicide or self-harm, it’s important to take a step back to ask for help. Just taking the first step to look after yourself is a big one! Here are some tips to help you through this:

Reflect on the reasons you choose your safety

Whether it's the love of a family member, a loyal pet, a cherished hobby, a close friend, or even the anticipation of a new album from your favourite artist, these reasons can serve as anchors in your stormy sea of thoughts.

It’s okay to say “No”

Sometimes we take on so much without thinking about ourselves. Saying “No” means we can focus on what we want and need. It gives us an opportunity to rest, regroup, and refocus.

Never be afraid to ask for help

It’s hard to do – it can be scary but it can also be helpful! Saying “I could use a friend” or “I’m having a hard time” will help those around you to know to come closer. You don’t have to go through this alone; you deserve to be heard and there is no shame in talking about your struggle.

Routine and self-care help us feel more in control and balanced

Creating a schedule that includes physical activities, meals, hygiene, social time, appointments, and sleep can make things feel less stressful and overwhelming. Small steps toward routine can reduce stress and overwhelm.

Remember, two things can exist at the same time

We can be sad and hopeful, angry and happy, confused and focused, lazy and productive…the list goes on. Find those moments of light in your day, no matter how small they may seem.

Your feelings are valid

Understand that it's okay to not feel okay. Your emotions are genuine, and there is no shame in talking about your struggles.

Know that you are loved, you are important, and you can get through this. Focus on the small glimmers and let these moments of light, and the people around you, give you the support you need in difficult times.

Supporting someone in need

Knowing that someone you love is going through a troublesome period is hard; but with your support, you can offer them a safe space to work through it. These tips will help you as you provide a support system they need at this time:

Don't be afraid to ask directly

If you are concerned about a loved one's mental health, don't hesitate to ask them directly if they are struggling or having thoughts of self-harm or suicide. It’s a common misconception that asking someone if they are having thoughts of suicide will ‘plant’ an idea in their head. This is not the case - especially with children and adolescents. Asking shows that you care and creates a safe space for them to open up about their feelings without fear of being a burden.

Remind them they are not alone

Reassure your loved one that they are not alone in their struggle. Offer your presence and companionship, but remember that sometimes they may just need someone to listen without judgment or a solution. Provide a safe space for them to express their feelings, their emotions, and what they’re going through. Sometimes, people just want to feel heard.

Positive reinforcement and validation

Small gestures and words of encouragement can have a big impact. Offer positive reinforcement and validate their feelings. Let them know that their efforts to cope and heal are admirable.

Make plans together

Engage in activities that bring joy and connection, such as going for a walk, having a movie night, enjoying their favourite meal, or trying a self-care practice together. Be sensitive to their needs and preferences, and never force any activities. If they are open to doing something fun this can be a great start!

Stay alert for warning signs

Educate yourself about the warning signs of suicide and self-harm. If you notice any concerning behaviors or expressions, don't hesitate to reach out for professional help or contact a crisis hotline if necessary.

Encourage treatment

If the individual is already in treatment, encourage them to stick with it and validate their efforts. Continue to support them on their healing journey or help them find resources to get started.

Seek support for yourself

Supporting someone through their mental health journey can be emotionally challenging and may bring up your own unresolved issues. It's essential to remember that you're not alone in this journey. Reach out for your own support, whether through friends, family, or a therapist, to ensure you have a safe space to process your emotions.

Whether you are struggling with your mental health or supporting someone who is, know that there is help available, and you are not alone. Remember, it's okay not to be okay, and seeking help is a courageous act. Always remember: You are loved, valued, and worthy of support.

If you’re in need of additional resources or immediate support please contact the following:

This post was written by wellbe’s wellbe’s social workers + psychotherapists. If you or your children are in need of support, you can book an in-person or virtual visit with our social workers here.

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